{"id":1034,"date":"2020-10-16T18:41:53","date_gmt":"2020-10-16T18:41:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/?p=1034"},"modified":"2020-10-16T18:41:53","modified_gmt":"2020-10-16T18:41:53","slug":"emotional-eating-night","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/emotional-eating-night\/","title":{"rendered":"Emotional Eating at Night"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_1036\" style=\"width: 1010px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1036\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1036\" src=\"https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/emotionaleatingatnight.jpeg\" alt=\"Does eating late at night put on pounds?\" width=\"1000\" height=\"750\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/emotionaleatingatnight.jpeg 1000w, https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/emotionaleatingatnight-300x225.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/emotionaleatingatnight-768x576.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-1036\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Emotional Eating at Night<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Why is it always at night? <a href=\"http:\/\/eatinglove.org\/\"><strong>Emotional eating<\/strong><\/a> kicking into high gear once it gets dark.<\/p>\n<h3>Aware of our Anxiety<\/h3>\n<p>If the woman above could talk &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s always at night. I&#8217;m able to be good throughout the day and then in the evening I feel like I can&#8217;t control myself. Like some other force is taking over and I have these irresistible urges to eat everything in the fridge.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;And I probably can too. I don&#8217;t know why that doesn&#8217;t happen to me in the morning or in the afternoon. Maybe I&#8217;m conditioned to do that now? Maybe I&#8217;ve been doing it so long that my body wants the extra food and is addicted?<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Maybe it&#8217;s because I know the food is there, that if I just didn&#8217;t buy any junk then I wouldn&#8217;t eat any. Well the last time I tried that <strong>I ended up getting creative<\/strong> and started to eat all of the non junk carbs like crackers and bread and made them taste good with cheese and spreads etc., So much for that tip.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;The monster that is emotional eating has seen all that before. He&#8217;s been around and isn&#8217;t fooled by mere tricks that I find in articles that have titles like, &#8216;5 Tips to Sculpt your Body by this Evening.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;He will have his pound of flesh and wins every time because he attacks the emotional center of my brain, not the logical one. Emotions trump all. How can I beat an opponent like that? It&#8217;s so <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eatinglove.org\/blog\/emotional-eating-harmful\/\">harmful<\/a><\/strong>. And why does he come out at night?<\/p>\n<h3>Monsters always come out at Night<\/h3>\n<p>&#8220;What happens to me at night that doesn&#8217;t so much in the daytime? I guess if I really think about it, it&#8217;s probably because I slow down and have nothing to do. Or more specifically, there aren&#8217;t as many things <strong>to distract me<\/strong> as usual.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Throughout the day I&#8217;m always running around doing this and that, focused on so many other things. But once I&#8217;m home and done with dinner, dishes and all that, I find there&#8217;s nothing more to focus my attention on.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Without distraction my anxiety comes ever more to into my awareness and it feels like it&#8217;s too much for me to handle. Of course the process is mostly unconscious at this point, yet now that I&#8217;m thinking about it it seems to be the case &#8211; it is too much.<\/p>\n<h3>Unstoppable Cravings<\/h3>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s a lot to handle and becomes uncomfortable real fast so the cravings start to gnaw at me and won&#8217;t stop until I fill myself with carbohydrate, my drug of choice. I push the cravings aside but they are persistent and get stronger as the minutes go by and the anxiety holds firm.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It gets to the point where the pressure is too much and I cave. <strong>The food soothes me right down<\/strong> and I feel a bit more settled. Guilty, tired and sometimes a bit ill too, but my body agrees to the trade off so I have to believe that the anxiety I felt before my binge was worse in some way.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It feel like I&#8217;m stuck between a rock and a hard place, a trap, or being caught in a loop that I can&#8217;t get out of because I don&#8217;t know how to. It&#8217;s frustrating. Over time that frustration turns into sadness and that sadness becomes depression. I hate this.<\/p>\n<h3>The Source<\/h3>\n<p>&#8220;So if the root of the problem is my anxiety then I should tackle that. But I don&#8217;t feel like going to a therapist and spending all that money on something that might not work anyway. I know it does help but I also know it takes many years and I don&#8217;t want to keep eating this way for years to come.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Every article I read online about emotional eating gives the same advice. Smaller portion sizes, realize my desire for food is not coming from hunger, don&#8217;t have junk in the house, distract myself with a hobby etc.,<\/p>\n<h3>Acceptance<\/h3>\n<p>&#8220;All fine things to do but I don&#8217;t think they will help me much. <strong>I&#8217;m going to have to accept<\/strong> that I will be eating this way and try my best to manage it. That it will take time to get over and that I shouldn&#8217;t beat myself up over it.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Food is going to win, so why fight it? Maybe I can still eat food late at night. Maybe I can make it a bit healthier than usual and tweak it very slowly over time. Then I can eat guilt free, knowing I am moving in a positive direction.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Just being on track feels good, and I can slowly work on my anxiety in the meantime. It&#8217;s not the be all and end all of solutions but it&#8217;s a million times better than being stuck and feeling depressed. Also, you know what they say, &#8216;success breeds success&#8217; so maybe things will get better as they get better, if you catch my drift.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Well, at least I know why I <strong>eat emotionally at night<\/strong>. I have an anxiety regulation problem that I become aware of when I slow down and don&#8217;t have much else to focus on, usually at night. Anxiety seems to be at the root of almost everything, food is just my way of coping.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I&#8217;ll use this insight to better myself, to initiate change and continue to dig and dig my way to growth and new ways of regulating and handling myself. A new me really. What else is more important and more meaningful to my own life, and those all around me?<\/p>\n<p>&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why is it always at night? Emotional eating kicking into high gear once it gets dark. Aware of our Anxiety If the woman above could talk &#8230; &#8220;It&#8217;s always at night. I&#8217;m able to be good throughout the day and then in the evening I feel like I can&#8217;t control myself. Like some other force is taking over and I have these irresistible urges to eat everything in the fridge. &#8220;And I probably can too. I don&#8217;t know why that doesn&#8217;t happen to me in the morning or in the afternoon. Maybe I&#8217;m conditioned to do that now? 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