EATING LOVE GUIDE - 6
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CHAPTER 6 - IMPLEMENTATION
"An ant on the move does more than a dozing ox. - Lao Tzu"
All the information in the world won't help unless you implement it. In my opinion there are 3 main reasons why people don't follow through:
1- No motivation to do so.
For these people it would be 'nice' to change in a more positive way and yes they do 'want to' but there isn't enough 'want' to actually do something about it.
2- It's too hard.
Some things are. Going to the gym 3 days a week and working out until it hurts is hard. It's not only the psyical strain but it's finding the time, getting there, changing clothes, showering, and then doing it all again in 2 days. When change is tough the key is to take baby steps and focus on the things you like about the process. In the gym example, many people enjoy the social aspect, the endorphin release they get, how they sleep etc.
3- No time.
We are busy and can't afford to displace any of what we do in the day for something new. It's our modern reality. The Eating Love guide asks a couple of minutes a day of awareness, and to 'modify' what we eat food-wise. It's really very little compared to what can be gained.
"SIMPLY WEAVE IT IN"
That above point is important. In order once again to make this as easy as possible it's best to weave it into your already established daily routines until they become habits. No changes in your day are needed.
This is how you create lasting change and become a different person.
SUMMARY This is the end of the 1st part.
The six tactics are at the core of this first part of the Eating Love guide. They have an obvious physical impact - which is weight loss - but also have an emotional one as well. Tactics one, two and five are designed to help you get in touch with your void/monster and doing just THAT is how you begin to become free of it. The more you come into contact with it (the unpleasant emotions), the less of a hold it has on your life and that translates into less overeating, which is your primary goal. Remember that it is this void and your RESISTANCE to it that drives you to overeat, so allowing yourself to feel it is where the relief comes from.
- Build on the emotional change. Read books by professional, registered psychologists and researchers on emotional well being. You can find some good one in the site's recommended reading section. I'd also recommend psychotherapy with a registered psychologist. They can be expensive but some do charge fees based on a sliding scale, which means they charge people based on their income.
- Re-read this guide a few times taking a couple of days break in-between each read. When assimilating new information it is hard to absorb it all at once. Rereading it will make it easier for you to fully implement.
- Go slow. Do so purposely. We have a tendency to want to change our unbearable situation right now and hate to have to think about living with ourselves for another so many months before we see results. Acknowledge this tendency in you and then remind yourself that slower change is more likely to be permanent, just like building your brick wall in chapter 2. You want your weight loss to be the same ... permanent.
ONE LAST THING
This type of emotional work never really ends but does pay off in a big way for those who stick with it. It not only affects you in a positive way but affects those around you as well, including those who are not here yet. Your change can potentially echo into the next generation and the ones after it. By taking a few steps back you can come to realize how profound that really is. It is humbling and exciting to think about how much influence you can have on other people's lives, people who are not yet born.
For those who want to go deeper, the second part of this guide deals with emotional change and getting to the root cause of emotional eating. It starts here.
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